Should You Do a First Look?

Should You Do a First Look? In the past couples absolutely did not want to see each other before the big walk down the aisle; but now more and more couples are opting into doing a first look before the ceremony. We are going to take a look at the pros and cons of both in hopes that this article with help provide some clarity if you are struggling with the idea of should you do a first look or not.

Pro: Pressure is off! Walking down the aisle in front of 200 of your family and friends is not exactly intimate. Taking the time to do a first look before your actual ceremony is a moment that can be totally between you and your significant other (and your photographer). This is a moment to get out all the nerves and to really sink into the moment without the expectations of how to act when seeing your honey for this first time in front of all your guest.  

Pro: Photos! First look photos always end up some of our favorites of the day! When you are walking down the aisle it is impossible to get pictures of both the bride and groom in the same photo during THE moment. You know the moment..when he sees you for the very first time. Although this is a great moment he is all the way at the other end of the aisle and it’s impossible to capture the moment of both of you seeing each other for the first time in the same photo. While doing a first look you can get all the pictures together that you want, and it’s a special moment where you can really appreciate the other person without the crowd or the minister rushing you along to start the ceremony.

Pro: Photos- Part 2! Sometimes after the ceremony you are trying to beat the clock and pictures can be rushed. Especially if you have a winter wedding you only have so many hours of daylight to get your pictures done. If you do your first look before the ceremony you don’t have to worry about being rushed with daylight hours and can get to your cocktail hour sooner.

Con: Tradition! For years and years it has been the norm that you don’t see your spouse-to-be until the big walk down the aisle. For some brides this is firm; no if, ands or buts about it. They want the moment to be shared with their guests and for everyone to see that look in his eye when he sees you for the first time.

Con: Superstition! If you are superstitious than doing a first look is definitely not for you. We totally get not wanting to see your sweetheart until the traditional ceremony for free of bad luck. I mean that’s a superstition for a reason. Don’t let any bad juju ruin your day sister!

Con: The guests! Doing a first look can somewhat rob your family and friends of the moment that your groom sees you for the first time. After all, you did want all these guests included in your day for a reason so doing a first look between just the two of you can take away from the “awe” moment for your guests to see the big reveal.

No matter if you decide to have a first look or not I hope these pros and cons have provided you with some clarity to help make your choice. Whatever you choose to do, do it for you. It’s your wedding and it should be exactly how you want it!

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If you got some words of wisdom from this post you should also check out our “Should You Have an Unplugged Wedding? post! 


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